SOCIAL CIRCLES ARE AFFECTED BY YOUR DIVORCE, TOO: CHOOSING SIDES

Divorces are hard for everyone in the family, not just the couple who is separating. Divorces have an effect on parents, grandparents, children, aunts and uncles. Others may be affected by the decision as well, worrying about how the separation could affect their friendships or social circles.

As someone who is friends with your in-laws and spouse despite the decision to divorce, you may be able to maintain those relationships. However, don't be surprised if people seem like they choose sides. In this scenario, people, especially friends and relatives, may feel that they need to side with their loved ones or those they feel closest to.

OFFICER SHOOTS A FATHER AMIDST A CUSTODY DISPUTE AT SCHOOL

Child custody disputes can get out of hand, and occasionally, they can put others in danger. Sometimes, cases are complicated, and this can result in many conflicts.

Take, for example, a tragic story about a man who was killed after enrolling his child into a middle school without his ex-wife's permission. According to the story, the Army veteran, 30, came to the middle school when the school called to say that a custody dispute was occurring. They also informed the school's resource officer. The officer called a Eugene police officer to the scene as well for support.

ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION HELPS YOUR DIVORCE MOVE FORWARD

Alternative dispute resolution (ADR) is an excellent way to move forward in a divorce when there is a dispute. It's an alternative way to come to an agreement that doesn't have to involve the court directly.

The Department of Justice suggests that people should attempt to use collaborative problem-solving processes to work through their disputes instead of bringing them to court. This saves time, money and energy that is better spent elsewhere.

YOUR ATTORNEY CAN ADVISE YOU ON A NEW FINANCIAL PLANNER

When you're going through a divorce and already have a financial planner that you share with your spouse, it's a good idea to stop and think about whether it's a good idea to continue on with that business relationship.

It doesn't usually make sense to retain the same business professionals that you shared with your spouse for the services you need going through a divorce, especially if that accountant or financial planner is still working with your estranged spouse. You don't want to find that there is any conflict of interests.

CAN YOU PAY CHILD SUPPORT IN CASH?

As someone who pays child support each month, you know when your support payment is due and how much it is. One thing you're not clear on, though, is what methods you can use to pay.

While you usually pay through a payroll deduction, you're changing jobs and haven't set up the new deduction yet. You'd like to pay child support in cash this month, but is that really a good idea?

IS THERE A PERFECT PARENTING PLAN?

Child custody is an important factor in any divorce. Determining what happens to your child is necessary, even if neither parent really wants to consider spending time apart from their child.

The reality of a divorce is that there is no option but to divide your time with your child. The good news, though, is that a good parenting plan makes a world of difference. If you and your spouse can get along following the divorce, then there may even be options like co-habitating and co-parenting in unique ways that benefit your child.

CONSIDER ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION METHODS DURING DIVORCE

Mediation

During a mediation session, the mediator helps by listening to both sides and helping both parties understand their rights and options. The mediator does not control the outcome of the case.

Arbitration

Arbitration is different than mediation because an arbitrator has the final say over the parties involved. Arbitration isn't as formal as a trial, and it's generally faster. Arbitration can be binding or nonbinding, depending on the agreement between the parties.

HOW DO COURTS CALCULATE MY INCOME WHEN DETERMINING CHILD SUPPORT?

Every mother or father who expects to pay child support wants to know the all-important question, "How much child support am I going to have to pay?"

It's understandable that they want to know. The information will help them predict their future expenditures while establishing their post-divorce budgets.

DEALING WITH HIGH-NET WORTH DIVORCES: KEEP THIS TIP IN MIND

It isn't easy to go through a divorce, no matter what your financial situation is. Despite that, people do it every day, and some take care of the divorce better than others. The difference between someone who survives a divorce well versus someone who just survives is that the first person has more knowledge about protecting themselves.

If you plan to go through a divorce and need to know the No. 1 tip to help you, it's this: Make sure you know all your assets. Anything of value can be an asset. That includes art, stocks, properties, furniture, jewelry and other items.

CHILD SUPPORT: JUDGES LOOK OUT FOR A CHILD'S BEST INTERESTS

Child support is an important aspect of compensation for children with separated or divorced parents. Children who live in single-parent households need the support of both parents, whether those parents are wealthy or not.

Child support is not designed to make the noncustodial parent suffer, but it does mandate that individual to help support their child financially. In cases where parents see children for an equal amount of time, support may be reduced or eliminated completely depending on the case.

ALTERNATIVE DISPUTE RESOLUTION CAN HELP YOU RESOLVE YOUR DIVORCE

You once were deeply in love with your spouse, but that love has turned acrimonious after finding out that they were committing adultery. You were hurt, but you tried to be the better person. Despite that, they seem to have gone out of their way to make your life more difficult. You just want to get a divorce, but they don't want to let go.

In your situation, which is not as uncommon as you may think, there are ways to work through disputes and to get your divorce moving forward. One of those possibilities is going through alternative dispute resolution (ADR) options.

HIGH-VALUE DIVORCES: WHAT ARE SOME COMMON MISTAKES?

In a high-asset divorce, you have a lot to lose or gain. Looking at the facts, those involved in high-asset divorces often end up with less than they began with, whether they get all they intended to. On top of this, the divorce is expensive, making it a financially and emotionally taxing experience.

One of the first things you need to do is to make sure you have your assets valued. A valuation expert can give an objective statement on what your assets are worth, which will be something that can help you while negotiating and if you end up in court. Keep in mind that you may wish to have a specialized accountant work with you, especially if you have unique holdings, like cryptocurrencies.

CONCERNED ABOUT CHILD SUPPORT? KEEP THIS IN MIND

Many people believe the misconception that child support is supposed to go to the child alone. The reality is that child support doesn't only need to pay for the child's clothing or specific school items.

Child support is there to help give a child a better home, to provide money for extracurricular activities, to provide medical care and even to make sure that they have food and clothing. Some people argue that they do not want to pay the money to the other parent because they are worried about how it will be spent. On the whole, the most important thing is that the child is well-cared for.

HELP YOUR KIDS ADJUST TO DIVORCE WITH THESE 3 SIMPLE TIPS

Divorces can hurt families in many ways other than just separating two parents. For children, the situation may feel like the end of all they've ever known. Teens may struggle to adjust to the changes they're going through with their parents while maintaining control over their own lives.

The good news is that parents can do things to reduce their children's struggles during divorce. From talking about the divorce to keeping children together, there are ways to reduce stress and maintain the family unit as much as possible.

3 TIPS FOR TALKING TO YOUR TEEN WHEN YOU DIVORCE

The teen years are hard enough without life-changing events, but when you find out that your parents are divorcing, that can be devastating. As a parent of a teen, you need to find an appropriate way to discuss the divorce and to help your teen understand your choices.

One of the issues with divorce when you have a teen is that they are likely to have their own opinion about the divorce and to vocalize them. You need to be prepared as a parent to listen and respond in a way that helps your situation and protects your relationship with your child.

SHOULD YOU TRY MEDIATION OR ARBITRATION?

There are two main forms of alternative dispute resolution including mediation and arbitration. Each has its own benefits, but they are slightly different in how they work.

If you have a dispute that you can't get through but you're willing to work toward a solution, alternative dispute resolution might be the right option for you. Here's a little more on how mediation and arbitration work.

WHAT COURTS CAN (AND CAN’T) CONSIDER IN CUSTODY CASES

Divorcing parents may have many worries regarding child custody. For one, they may be afraid that they might, for one reason or another, be at a disadvantage in custody proceedings. What can and can’t Oregon courts consider in child custody matters?

There are a variety of factors state law directs courts to look at when deciding what custody setup would be in the best interests of the child in question. This includes the emotional ties, relationship, interests and attitudes each of the parents has regarding the child