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Alternative dispute resolution could be the right choice for you

Alternative dispute resolution (ADR) is an important type of assistance to use when you're involved in a conflict. Whether you're fighting over your child's care after a divorce or want to fight for particular assets from your marriage, ADR can help you.

There are two main kinds of ADR that you can try if you and your ex-spouse or estranged spouse are willing to negotiate and listen to one another. They include:

  • Mediation
  • Arbitration

Social circles are affected by your divorce, too: Choosing sides

Divorces are hard for everyone in the family, not just the couple who is separating. Divorces have an effect on parents, grandparents, children, aunts and uncles. Others may be affected by the decision as well, worrying about how the separation could affect their friendships or social circles.

As someone who is friends with your in-laws and spouse despite the decision to divorce, you may be able to maintain those relationships. However, don't be surprised if people seem like they choose sides. In this scenario, people, especially friends and relatives, may feel that they need to side with their loved ones or those they feel closest to.

Unusual financial activity could indicate hidden assets

During divorce, there is often distrust between spouses. However, sometimes that distrust is warranted. Many people are tempted to hide assets from their spouse during divorce in an effort to keep them from being divided in the divorce process like other marital assets.

It is illegal and dishonest, but many spouses who are used to managing the finances on their own think that they can get away with hiding assets. However, there may be signs in your financial record that may indicate your spouse is not being honest with you about your family finances.

Officer shoots a father amidst a custody dispute at school

Child custody disputes can get out of hand, and occasionally, they can put others in danger. Sometimes, cases are complicated, and this can result in many conflicts.

Take, for example, a tragic story about a man who was killed after enrolling his child into a middle school without his ex-wife's permission. According to the story, the Army veteran, 30, came to the middle school when the school called to say that a custody dispute was occurring. They also informed the school's resource officer. The officer called a Eugene police officer to the scene as well for support.

Alternative dispute resolution helps your divorce move forward

Alternative dispute resolution (ADR) is an excellent way to move forward in a divorce when there is a dispute. It's an alternative way to come to an agreement that doesn't have to involve the court directly.

The Department of Justice suggests that people should attempt to use collaborative problem-solving processes to work through their disputes instead of bringing them to court. This saves time, money and energy that is better spent elsewhere.

Your attorney can advise you on a new financial planner

When you're going through a divorce and already have a financial planner that you share with your spouse, it's a good idea to stop and think about whether it's a good idea to continue on with that business relationship.

It doesn't usually make sense to retain the same business professionals that you shared with your spouse for the services you need going through a divorce, especially if that accountant or financial planner is still working with your estranged spouse. You don't want to find that there is any conflict of interests.

Can you pay child support in cash?

As someone who pays child support each month, you know when your support payment is due and how much it is. One thing you're not clear on, though, is what methods you can use to pay.

While you usually pay through a payroll deduction, you're changing jobs and haven't set up the new deduction yet. You'd like to pay child support in cash this month, but is that really a good idea?

How does a narcissist make divorce more difficult?

By the time you file for divorce, you’re probably already well aware of how difficult it is to live with your spouse. Not only do you wonder what went wrong or how you could’ve avoided your current situation, but you may also regret marrying them in the first place.

If you’ve been married to a narcissist you may be used to accepting responsibility for their faults, with their manipulation continually adding to your agony of parting ways. Your soon-to-be ex may intentionally try to put more blame on you for the troubles in your marriage, making it harder for you to leave.

Is there a perfect parenting plan?

Child custody is an important factor in any divorce. Determining what happens to your child is necessary, even if neither parent really wants to consider spending time apart from their child.

The reality of a divorce is that there is no option but to divide your time with your child. The good news, though, is that a good parenting plan makes a world of difference. If you and your spouse can get along following the divorce, then there may even be options like co-habitating and co-parenting in unique ways that benefit your child.

Consider alternative dispute resolution methods during divorce

Alternative dispute resolution (ADR) can be a great help for couples who are struggling to get through a divorce without fighting. It's possible to work together to resolve problems as they arise instead of turning to the judge for all final decisions.

There are a few different kinds of ADR, including mediation, arbitration, settlement conferences and neutral evaluation. Through these forms of ADR, you can reach a settlement with your spouse without the lengthiness of a trial. Here's what you should know about each.

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